Today’s Miracle Moment Is About Taking Responsibility for Your Life…
In Your Year of Miracles program, we have Five Foundations for Living in the Miracle Zone. Today, we’re going to talk about the third of these foundations, which is Taking Responsibility for Your Life.
Taking responsibility is the way to embrace your true power in life. This means showing up as a victor rather than a victim of your circumstances. We’ll explain more about that in a minute.
First, we want to acknowledge how the word responsibility can feel heavy. Many people think that taking responsibility means to judge or blame yourself: “things are all my fault” or “shame on me.” That does feel heavy.
But that’s not what we’re referring to. Instead, we suggest you think of responsibility in this way: “If my life is my responsibility, it means I have some say in it. I’m going to have a great role in the outcomes I get in life.”
When you allow yourself to make choices from the place of what’s possible for your life rather than from the place of limitation, then you feel the power and freedom in taking responsibility for your life.
You can start to take more responsibility for your life by noticing how often you give away your power by showing up as a victim in life.
Here are three ways to know that you’re showing up like a victim:
Blaming: Anytime you’re blaming somebody else or outside forces for what’s going wrong with your life—whether you’re blaming the weather, or blaming someone else or blaming society — you’re giving away your power.
Shaming: This is blame turned towards yourself. Telling yourself things like, “I’m never good at this. I can’t do this. I’m always messing up. I don’t deserve this” is evidence that you’re stuck in the rut giving away your power through shaming yourself.
Complaining: When you spend energy complaining about the circumstances in your life you don’t like–focusing on what’s wrong– you’ll inevitably end up getting more of that, because what you put your attention on will grow stronger in your life.
We’re sure you’ve noticed what a bummer it is to be around people who are blaming, shaming and complaining, yes? Well, it’s also a bummer to be around yourself when you’re blaming, shaming and complaining.
Any time you’re blaming, shaming or complaining, you’re showing up like a victim in life and you’re not in the Miracle Zone.
So, here’s what we invite you to do this week: play the “Blame, Shame and Complain Game”.
It’s quite simple. Every time you find yourself blaming, shaming, or complaining, you put a dollar into a bowl. You’ll be surprised how often you catch yourself on those first few days. But by the fourth or fifth day, you’ll be doing much less blaming, shaming and complaining. We’re sure of it.
You can play this game with your family (it’s great with kids) or your friends or your co-workers. (At the end of the week, you can donate the money you’ve collected to a favorite charity.) This is a fun way to shift the habit of showing up like a victim.
“Set yourself free. Embrace what’s going on in your life and you’ll find great freedom in taking responsibility for your entire life experience. We guarantee that it’s a ticket to the Miracle Zone!”
~Marci Shimoff & Dr. Sue Morter