Today’s Miracle Moment is about staying in a place of peace…
The #1 question we receive from people all over the world is….”Is it possible to remain in a happy and peaceful state when you’re surrounded by negative people?”
Our answer is YES, but staying positive around negative people is definitely an art!
You can probably relate to this scenario:
You’re having a great day, feeling in the flow, loving the energy in the Miracle Zone, when all of a sudden – wham! You bump into someone who’s in a foul mood, who wants to gossip about others, who has an endless list of what’s going wrong or just has a negative vibe. The next thing you know, you’re brought down and feeling negative and upset yourself.
Why does this happen? Why does your wave of positivity seem to crash when it bumps up against a wall of negativity?
Well, there’s a law of physics that says when two objects are vibrating near each other, the one vibrating with the greatest intensity will dominate. In relationships, this means that the person with the strongest emotional state sets the tone of any interaction – and like a tuning fork, you start vibrating at their frequency.
So the next time you’re in a positive, happy, miraculous state of mind and you happen upon someone who decidedly isn’t, you have a choice to make: You can either consciously attempt to have the person synchronize with your emotional state or by default, you will synchronize with theirs.
It’s probably easier to make choice #1 when you don’t know the person well so you’re not as reactive. It takes a lot more resolve when you’re invested in the relationship. Just know that you’re giving your friend or loved one a great gift by not indulging their negativity. Misery may love company but the result is…you’re both miserable.
The more you practice all the techniques to stay in the Miracle Zone that we share in our Miracle Moments, the more you’ll build up a strong “emotional immune system” that prevents you from catching another’s negativity, and your peace and well-being will not be effected.
Until then, here are a few more tips for staying in the Miracle Zone even in the face of someone who’s firmly entrenched in the Negativity Zone:
1. Keep your emotional balance by tuning in to your body when confronted with negativity. Notice any sensations arising in your physiology. Just the act of presencing those sensations will bring you into the present moment and prevent you from having a knee-jerk reaction. Your powerful attention will facilitate the dissolution of the uncomfortable sensation and restore you to a state of peace.
2. Most people who are upset are not deliberately trying to bring you down. They just want their feelings to be acknowledged, so you might say something like, “I can see why you might feel that way,” or, “I see that this situation is really upsetting to you.” Then gently without making them wrong and without judgement (and definitely without blame) offer something positive about the situation. Be light-hearted and they might see the situation from a new perspective.
3. If you can’t think of anything positive to say, know that simply staying neutral in the face of negativity is a gift in itself.
Most importantly, you want to have your positive, miraculous vibration be the dominant vibration – so just like a tuning fork, you’ll bring your friends, without them even knowing it, into the Zone where peace flows and life can be filled with miracles.
It all sound good to me for now thank you.
I’m a guy, I believed I picked up that this was primarily set up for the women, but, hey, guys get affected by ‘Donnie the Downer’ also.
Thanks for sharing.
Great message Stephen – keep well and stay strong
Its very hard to stay positive when you are a caretaker of your husband who expects so much and will not try to help himself
It always ends in negatve words and bad feelings.I know this is contributing to my health deteriorating also
Can I make a suggestion? Go back to why you fell in love with him. Write those things down. And then casually bring them up in conversation. “Bob remember the time we …..” Or “I was thinking about the time you….” Slowly include him in the things you’re doing. Making the bed, can you hand me that pillow? Clearing the dishes, can you grab that stuff for me?
What you suggest seems achievable, but unfortunately my experience with people who are absolutely out of their center, full of hatred, hasn’t been successful.
The last one left me several hours in an extreme nervousness, even though I spoke calmly to her.
My humble conclusion is that next time I find someone like that (we are having very hard times in my country) I will walk away and try all the exercises I know to release that aggressiveness from the others.
I am sending light to the last aggressor. I never met her after that.
Warm regards and thanx a lot.
Sending you lots of light, Haydee!
When the community are so negative.You find difficulties in balancing/restoring your positive energy.However,your message is strong! Thanks.
It can be so difficult! We find that the faster you can move on, the more room you’ll have for that positive energy to flow in.
What is happening to Capricorn 1947 dec 30
That’s a great question! But we’re not astrologers so not in a position to enlighten you on that one. 😉
Dear Marci and Deborah, I do love your miracle moments and practice the little tips regularly. Thank you so much. You come across as very kind, genuine people. I would love to ask you a question that bothers me a lot. I naturally am more productive at night and then if I’m to get enough sleep, need to get up late. I actually get a little irritated and mildly depressed if I try to change this because I don’t sleep well if I try to go to bed before I’ve done my creative thing in the evening and yet something deep inside seems to resonate with the proverb: early to bed, early to rise makes a woman healthy, wealthy and wise. Those healthy positive pictures of people all seem to be at sunrise. I love the sunrise but rarely see it ! I have plenty of good things in my life but like many people there is plenty of room for more miracles ! Should I be trying to be an early bird ? With lots of blessings and love to you both, Helen x
Hello, Helen. We definitely believe in honoring your true self and your full creative expression! Sounds like there is something inside of you that wants to be a night owl. We are not all alike nor should we feel the need to compare ourselves to others. Wishing you many more creative miracles to come!
Thanks for the miracle-moment, a reminder…. I think it is important to get out of the inner state of feeling as a victim. This requires constant inner work. And it is worth doing it!
Love and light, Tarala
Yes, Tarala! We soooo agree! Definitely worth it.
Sending my deep gratitude along to you both for affording all of us these great reminders and positive tips on staying strong through (negative) challenges…
Thank you, Helen! We’re feeling the gratitude and it feels delicious!
Thank Marci and Debra, for this wonderful gift for life. Your tips and insights are really valuable and are helping me to live a rich and blessed life. I am always looking forward to hear from you. With lots of love and gratitude. Flor