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Today’s Miracle Moment Is About How I Manifested My Soulmate…
Have you ever had this pattern on repeat?
Great person. Great chemistry. Wrong fit.
And then… you start over again.
For years, I was deeply devoted to my inner work. I was building a meaningful career. I was doing “all the right things.”
And yet, love was my biggest blind spot.
If you’ve been searching for “the one” — the person who will finally fill your cup, meet all your needs, and make life feel complete — I want to gently offer this truth:
Sometimes, that intention is the very thing that blocks the relationship you’re calling in… or makes it hard to keep once it arrives.
Because soulmates aren’t here to complete us.
They’re here to meet us in our wholeness.
When “Doing Everything Right” Still Doesn’t Work
Throughout my twenties and thirties, I had several really great relationships with really great men.
But they just weren’t my guy. And I knew it.
I’d end the relationship, move through the heartache… and then something happened that felt almost comical:
Three times in a row, my ex-boyfriend would quickly meet his wife.
Three. Times. In. A. Row.
I couldn’t figure it out.
I was committed to personal growth. I was clear on what I wanted. I was taking action.
But something was missing.
And it wasn’t until I stopped trying so hard that everything shifted.
I’m Marci Shimoff — author of the New York Times bestsellers Happy for No Reason and Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul, and a teacher in the film The Secret — and I want to share the real story of how I met my soulmate… and what I learned about manifesting love in the process.
The Day I Met Sergio: One Intuitive “Yes” Changed Everything
In 1999, I heard about an event at the Omega Institute — the first gathering of 12 shamans coming together from South America.
I had no connection with shamans. No logical reason to go.
But when I heard about it, I felt an instant knowing:
“I’m going to do that.”
So I invited my friend Renée, and we traveled across the country to New York.
Within the first five minutes of arriving, the woman parked next to me was someone I’d met at Omega a year earlier. She said:
“Marci! It’s so good to see you. Are you still single? Do you want to meet a guy?”
I said yes.
Then she asked, “Do you like big macho guys?”
I said, “Yeah!”
She said, “Well, he’s not that. He’s more the sensitive type.”
I wasn’t sure.
Then she asked, “Do you like older men?”
I said, “Yeah!”
She said, “Well, he’s not that either. I think he’s younger than you.”
And I immediately replied:
“Oh, I don’t date younger men.”
The moment I said those words, she turned her head across the parking lot and said:
“Oh my God… there he is.”
He had just arrived at that exact second.
I looked over. I didn’t even see his face clearly.
But I got the biggest hit:
I have to meet him now.
She introduced us and said, “Sergio, this is my friend Marci. You need to teach her the dance from our course.”
Before he even said hello, he took me in his arms and danced me around this gravel parking lot.
And when I looked into his eyes, I knew:
This is my life partner. This is my soulmate.
The Plot Twist: We Broke Up (And That Became the Breakthrough)
Here’s the part most people don’t expect:
We were together for 10 years… and then we broke up.
And during that time apart, I did the most important work of my life.
I stopped waiting for someone to complete me.
I stopped trying to force the relationship of my dreams.
I stopped making my happiness dependent on finding my soulmate.
One day, after we’d been apart for a few years, I remember thinking:
“I feel the happiest I’ve felt in my whole life. I really love myself.”
The very next day, Sergio called me out of the blue.
We’d hardly spoken much in the year prior.
And he said:
“I think there’s something still here… and we should give it another try.”
We did.
And this year, we celebrated our 26th anniversary.
So… how did I manifest my soulmate — and what would I suggest for you, if love is the miracle you’re calling in?
Shift #1: Follow Your Intuition, Not Your Checklist
A lot of people teach: “Make a list of everything you want in a partner.”
And I did.
I wanted someone older. Tall. Strong. Masculine. Spiritual. Confident.
Sergio was younger. More sensitive than macho.
He wasn’t what I thought I wanted — but he turned out to be what I truly needed.
I met him because I followed three intuitive nudges:
- That unexplainable knowing to attend the Omega event
- The instant energetic “yes” when my friend pointed him out across the parking lot
- The undeniable recognition the moment our eyes met
If I had been more loyal to my checklist than my intuition, I would have missed him completely.
Manifestation isn’t only about “preferences.”
It’s about resonance. Alignment. Truth.
Shift #2: Fall in Love with Yourself (First)
Here’s the shift that changed everything for me:
I finally stopped looking for someone to fill my cup…
and started filling it myself.
Even after years of spiritual work and personal development, I didn’t realize I was still hoping love would make me whole.
And that’s one of the great gifts of relationships:
They reveal our blind spots.
They show us the places we aren’t fully loving ourselves yet.
After Sergio and I broke up, I dedicated myself to becoming truly happy and whole on my own.
And that’s when he came back.
What we created after that was built on mutual self-love and spiritual partnership.
We called it: relationship 2.0.
If you’re looking to manifest a soulmate relationship, this matters:
A healthy soulmate connection grows best when it’s overflow — not need.
Shift #3: Let Go and Trust the Unfolding
The paradox of manifestation is this:
You get clear on what you want…
and then you let it go.
When we grip too tightly, we create resistance.
When we release and trust, we create flow.
I stopped checking the clock.
I stopped obsessing over the how and when.
I focused on becoming the happiest, most authentic version of myself.
And that’s when love showed up — effortlessly, naturally, divinely timed.
Practical Prompts to Help You Manifest Your Soulmate
If you’re calling in your soulmate, try these powerful shifts:
1) Get clear on the feeling, not just the details
Instead of a rigid checklist, ask yourself:
- How do I want to feel in this relationship?
- What energy do I want to share with this person?
- What kind of love do I want to live inside of — daily?
2) Become who you want to attract
If you want a partner who is happy, loving, grounded, and whole…
Practice becoming that now.
Don’t wait for someone else to make you happy.
3) Follow your intuition (especially when it makes no sense)
If you get a nudge to go somewhere, meet someone, join a class, take a trip, say yes to an invitation…
Pay attention.
Intuition is often the Universe’s GPS.
4) Practice letting go after you set the intention
Do the inner work. Hold the desire.
And then soften your grip.
Trust the timing more than your mind.
Encouragement: Your Soulmate Isn’t Here to Complete You
Your soulmate isn’t out there to fill your gaps.
They’re waiting to meet you in your wholeness.
When you fill your own cup, you radiate an energy of love that magnetizes the right person at the right time.
And when you follow your intuition, do the inner work, and release the timeline…
You create the perfect conditions for love to find you.
Closing Reflection Questions
Whether you’re single, dating, healing, or already partnered, ask yourself:
- Am I seeking someone to fill the gaps — or someone to share my overflow?
- What would it look like to become the happiest version of myself?
- Am I willing to trust my intuition, even when it doesn’t match my checklist?
Your soulmate may not look like what you expected…
But when it’s right, you’ll know.
Trust the knowing. Do the inner work. Release the timeline.
That’s how you manifest a soulmate who’s truly meant for you.
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