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Today’s Miracle Moment Is About What Valentine’s Day Teaches Us About Self-Love…
You know Valentine’s Day is coming up because if you go into a drugstore, you see entire aisles filled with boxes of chocolate, pink and red fluffy pillows, teddy bears, and all sorts of advertisements that give ideas of what this day should be like.
It’s wonderful to have a day dedicated to celebrating love. The challenge can come if it creates certain expectations in our minds about what love should look like.
Should our lovability be measured by whether we have a partner or by how many boxes of chocolate we receive or how many Valentine’s cards we got? Definitely not.
If we aren’t showered with the affection that we’re hoping for or expecting on Valentine’s Day, we can end up feeling disappointed, believing that we aren’t as loved as we want to be.
Or, if we’re not in a primary relationship, it can be easy to create a story about our lovability, especially if we compare ourselves to the images we see everywhere in the media and social media.
So our first invitation for you on Valentine’s Day is to drop the expectations on others to shower you with the love that you are.
Because your core essence IS love!
Our next invitation is that you treat yourself the way you’d like someone else to treat you on Valentine’s Day.
What if we gave ourselves the same level of love, attention, and affection that we hope or expect to receive from someone else? Well, the same thing that happens when someone treats you wonderfully — your heart opens, you feel relaxed, you feel happy. This is a gift we can give ourselves.
We can do this in simple ways… Be your own Valentine.
Do for yourself what you’d want to have for Valentine’s day. That could be having a nice meal or getting yourself some flowers. Write yourself a love letter or Valentine’s card. Tell yourself everything that you love and appreciate about yourself. I know this might seem a bit uncomfortable — we’re not used to this — but just try it out and see how you feel. You’re worthy of receiving that kind of loving care and attention.
This is a powerful way of showing ourselves how worthy we are. When we act in these loving ways towards ourselves, we naturally build up love for ourselves. And when we spend time nourishing ourselves, we start to believe how worthy and valuable we are — unconditionally.
And then, make sure that you do it!
We want to leave you with this quote from Oscar Wilde:
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
Happy Valentine’s Day!
I never knew what it meant to “love yourself first” or “how” to love myself. Thanks to you, now I do, now I understand! It really put it in perspective for me. Thankyou so much!
This year Valentine day is very sad day to me I been lockup in Christalite Methodist home because of this pandemics virus. whatever I like to thanks you always God bless you always.
Hi from Oz Fiona love me but they never let me find time ldoeverything washing dishes floor walls and sho food but he’s had 4 weman in 2 years
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I felt your genuine compassion. Your gentle manner of speaking and pleasant affect filled my heart with encouragement.
Thank you for the loving kindness gestures, too.
Peace
Thank you for your message. Today I have put on a red dress, put on some bracelets, bought myself my favorite chocolates’ put on Englebert Humperdinck’s cd. Took a flower from the bouquet my children sent me and put it in a vase on the table when I had my breakfast, also put a red ribbon around my cat’s neck and gave him a treat!
Yeah I think I love myself, I have such a good time with myself and I am belly laughing lots. I love my own company!!
Yes I love my self. 💙
Thank You! I really appreciated your comments and you reminding me of thoughts I already knew but need to practice more often in action! You made me smile!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
God bless you! ❤️🙏🏽😊
Thank you so much. You have really imparted so much wisdom. Before we seek to receive love from others we create a good basis from which can love others unconditionally. This is through loving ourselves first.
I am going to get myself a Valentine’s card and write how much I Love Myself and Appreciate the Woman ❤️ that I am….
Thank you for reminding me to love myself first and the rest will follow . I’m going to start journaling and have a nice dinner with my grandchildren ♥️ Happy Valentine’s Day ♥️
I told a friend I would dine out at a lovely local restaurant enjoying a nice steak dinner and a glass of merlot. I will wink at the man at the next table. We got a good laugh at that. I neither eat out (covid) eat red meat or drink wine. But the scenario sounded about right. Instead, I will watch church, then HGTV, while enjoying the Sunday paper and a luscious donut I bought special for this day.
Here’s winking at you all and wishing you an AWESOME Valentine’s Day!! 💗🤗💗🤗💗
Thank you for the Valentine’s self-love message. I was feeling down since I’m single but then was reminded to let go of the expectations of others & treat myself as I would another. I’m gonna wear one of my many ❤ outfits & do some zumba.
Wow! Awesome reminder to continue being in love with yourself first & foremost. Soulmate love comes from within so I’ve learned to be that person to myself & feel the power of looking at life in loving ways & feel that vibration of being in love. Reciprocal love comes to me now in so many ways by having that power instead of giving it away. Love is the most powerful force. Your video was so inspiring to me ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
It all makes sense
I always thought to put yourself first was selfish ,that’s why I always put others first ,I have learnt something today
Thank you
It is snowing and the birds are confused Today I fed the birds, they looked hungry, and I felt the love. Last night as I took out the compost in the snow a huge orange rabbit had been eating at the compost. I felt love for the cat following me and the rabbitt running away from me. I love my clients and there company and I get love back from them. Love to you all.
I’m going to give myself a manicure, read a favorite book, and make cinnamon rolls! And remind myself how lovable and beautiful I am, inside and out! Happy Valentine’s Day to all!
I’m sitting alone, it’s raining outside, no contact with anyone today – and it would be easy to feel down….
But then I found your Valentines Day miracle moment and I’m filled with gratitude, feeling loved as I reflect on my blessings and the joy of the journey I’m on, of who I am and who I am becoming.
Thank you for encouraging me to lift my head and look for the positives today. Like many of us I find it difficult to be kind and gentle with myself – not today! Today i am celebrating being Me!
Your work is inspirational and I feel supported and loved. Thank you 😊
The first step in an unknown direction is always heavy.
To care for yourself sometimes seam not so easy.
Following Your suggestion I tried to do a very simple thing
and started to tidy up my rooms……..normally I do this to pleasure my visitors.
Today–I’ll do it to show respect and love to myself.
Thank You very much for Your words.
Stay healthy
Yours Elena
There’s nothing more loving and giving than practicing the Golden Rule! Nameste to you all💓!
Thank you for your message. This is what I needed to hear. It’s something I’ve been struggling with my entire life but you put it in a very caring, loving,
and understandable way. You have given me the motivation to try this. Much love to you and Happy Valentine’s day,
Thank you for that, Marci! What a wonderful suggestion!
Have a dream worthy day and
Happy Valentine’s Day to you, Dr. Sue and Lisa!
You are right!
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
Thanks for your advices. Wish you all a nice Valentine day!
Thank you. Tuning into what sounds delicious for me today…Self Love rituals. A fire in the hearth. A simple delicious meal. Play with my kitty. A warm bath. Recently broke with sweetheart. Was feeling sad last night and this morning when I woke. Feeling renewed by and joined with others who are also alone and enJOYing some Self Love today. Learning every day!
Marci,
Somehow your heart really came through and spoke to me this morning. It was like warm embrace that I didn’t even know I needed.
Thank you and much love
I use to pamper and treat myself all the time. But with the pandemic, and the busyness of life, I focused more on others than myself. Thank you so much for the reminder, this is the perfect time to get my life in balance. I will definitely focus more on pampering myself. Happy Valentine’s Day to me!
Bueno , yo siempre he creido ese SELF LOVE porq, si no me amo a misma,¿como he de creer q los demas lo haran.?
me considero muy afortunada ya q nunca he utilisado mis influencia para dañar a nadie y tratarlo como me gustarian q me trataran pero siempre me sale al rebes, me lo pregunto cada dia y todavia no encuetro esa respuesta, solo pido a DIOS no dejar q las personas me cambien a una persona mala. la verdad me amo muchicimos apesar de esas personas y pido bendiciones para ellos pero q mi DIOS lo aleje de mi. sin mas, viva el SELF LOVE FOR ALL.
Thank you, Marci and Dr. Sue. What a wonderful message to receive on Valentine’s morning! I have a friend coming over later for a glass of wine, and dinner, and I will remember all day to love myself!
Thank you for today’s Valentine’s day message dear Dr. Sue Morter, Marci Shimoff and Lisa Garr. I’ve learned self-love is love for the present moment and new beginnings filled with graces and beautiful wonder; especially at this time in our world! Today I will spend a very cold Chicago day on-line with a friend I have not seen in 45 years, but was my big brother in high school. We will cook together, remember friends, and watch a movie about love! May your Valentine’s day be filled with self love and all sweet graces!
Me too stuck inside in frozen Chicago! I fixing my favorite foods today for dinner bought bottle of wine and baking😍talking to good friends and family I love. Going to bubble bath condition hair facial Mani pedi myself and listen to great music and read in tub! Spa day!
Thank you, thank you and much love to you today on Valentine’s Day and always!
I am working in a hospital today. I took in heart shaped chocolates for all to share. I also delivered (am an obstetrician) a beautiful baby boy, our first valentines baby. There will be two more. I also gave the heart shaped chocolates to the parents.
Marci, I was very surprised about your Valentine’s greeting and the idea of self-love today. It has seemed that this special day is to give out love to others. But, when we are not with anyone, your greeting means a lot to me. I appreciate you and all you do to make us feel more vibrant and uplifted. Have a joyful Valentine’s day.
Wow, what a profound way of learning how to love yourself. That’s something I never thought of but this has taught me to truly love myself!!
I love today’s message. I am having a wonderful self-love day. My husband cooked a nice dinner and I’ve received messages from my family and friends all day. I am living in gratitude every day for the love i exude and the love i feel all around me. I absolutely love that i have Marci and Dr. Sue in my life. You have changed my perspective and my life.
Happy Valentine’s day to you all. ❤💃🥰
Hi Marci and Dr. Sue, I appreciated this short video on Valentine’s Day. I never realized before this past 6 months that I could receive messages from an organization or a group of people who do not know me at all beside the fact that they know I am reaching out for support. So I thank you deeply for this message. Yes I love myself and I offered myself a yoga session which included new asanas I learned with Dr Sue, breath of fire, fern breath, thousant little straw breath, etc. Evenmore, I refreshed the color in my hair, which used to be a very difficult task only a year ago. And…I am having fondue with my ”beau” and who know what else for dessert 🙂 Happy Valentine’s Day to you!!
I feel better because I bought Terry some chocolates & he gave me some beautiful orchids–usually we just do cards—I feel better because of it! I know I ‘m worthy of it, because I never give up! Blesses to you both.
Happy Valentines Day Marci, Dr Sue and Lisa. ❤️💐
Thank you for the thoughtful message. Happy Love Day to you all. So, in thinking about your question from a previous session: “what can I do for myself to make me feel better?” Last night in advance, I asked my teen to take the dog out this am, so I could lay in bed and read the paper and answer my emails! Then we bought a special early dinner at a local restaurant using an app that allows alllll of the proceeds to go directly to the restaurant. It’s called: https://get.chownow.com/. It’s cold in SF, so later I plan to take a nice HOT bath with oils and listen to calming music. Blessings to you all, stay healthy, safe and full of love.
I am relaxing on this beautiful snowy day sharing love text to my siblings, children, friends and colleagues. I feel so full of love 💕
I am relaxing on this beautiful snowy day sharing love text to my siblings, children, friends and colleagues. I feel so full of love 💕
Thank you Marci, I feel your love. Great message!
I called and wrote to friends sending pics of an amazing flower in bloom from my greenhouse, walked with new friends in the arboretum, made a delicious meal and gave myself time to relax. One of the most helpful things I’ve done for myself is to create a weekly schedule for myself-I am much more productive and happier. It feels like a loving gift to myself.
Thank you Marcy for all your miracle moments. Even though I don’t have a partner or a girlfriend and I never had it’s good to know that what you teach can have a profound effects on other people like me. I hope that one day someone will like for who will like me for who I am not for what I have to offer. I created a phrase from a song called Unconditional from the Corrs and it says “Love Unconditionally” which is something dearest to my heart given the fact that I have been diagnosed with ADHD and Bipolar Disorder and I speak too fast for you to understand me. So thank you to you Marcy, Dr Sue and Lisa.
Dear Hearts,
Such a wonderful surprise to receive this communion from you all as Valentine’s Day late eve draws to a close.
I am savoring the quote from Oscar Wilde and shall copy this and read each day to reinforce this and practice living with this romance with me.
Thank you.
Bright Blessings to Marci, Sue and Lisa.
Moriah
Dear Hearts,
Such a wonderful surprise to receive this communion from you all as Valentine’s Day late eve draws to a close.
I am savoring the quote from Oscar Wilde and shall copy this and read each day to reinforce this and practice living with this romance with me.
Thank you.
Bright Blessings to Marci, Dr Sue and Lisa.
Moriah
Thank you for this beautiful message ❤️ So agree that it is true, deep love comes first from knowing how to love ourselves and treat ourselves as the previous divine beings we are. Our essence is indeed love.
Valentine’s Day is also my birthday. I gave myself lots of love and appreciation yesterday and filled my cup up. Received a lot back in beautiful and unexpected ways. Drop all expectations of love and just be love and the most loving person you can be to your own precious self. This is the greatest gift you can give yourself and others. 🙏❤️