Your Year of Miracles

Category: Success

  • What We Can Learn From Simone Biles’ Comeback

    What We Can Learn From Simone Biles’ Comeback

    Today’s Miracle Moment Is About What We Can Learn From Simone Biles’ Comeback…

    I don’t know about you, but I loved following the summer Olympics this year. I was already a huge fan of the amazing Simone Biles, but even more so now.

    If you aren’t aware of her story, Simone is the most decorated American Olympic gymnast of all time, and she has 11 Olympic medals including seven golds. People call her the GOAT, which stands for “Greatest of All Time.”

    Back in the 2020 Olympics in Tokyo, Simone experienced the “twisties,” which happen when a gymnast temporarily loses awareness of where they are while performing twists in the air.

    This is super disorienting, dangerous, and terrifying. They can’t control their bodies or where they land, and it could lead to serious injuries. So Simone made the difficult decision to withdraw from the Japan Olympics. And she publicly shared that she was doing it for her mental and physical health.

    Her decision inspired other athletes to publicly share their own challenges with mental health and it sparked new conversations in the sports and gymnastics community about the importance of mental health. Simone also got a lot of backlash and harsh criticism, but she didn’t let that drag her down. She took 3 years to do emotional healing and self-love work before she came back to the 2024 Paris Olympics. She shared that therapy was a crucial part of her regimen, and so was speaking on her trauma and releasing it, rather than pushing it down.

    When Simone decided she wanted to return to the Olympics, she had to start back at square one.

    One day, she went back to the gym, and she jumped on the trampoline just once and then left. Another day, she jumped just a couple of times and then left. Another time, she did one vault into those squishy bricks and then she was out for two weeks.

    So, the Greatest Of All Time got back to the Olympics through taking small baby steps, AND prioritizing her well-being – even when the stakes were extremely high and a LOT of people had negative opinions about it. We can all definitely learn from that.

    During the 2024 Paris Olympics, Simone SHINED. She won the women’s artistic individual all-around gold, the women’s vault gold, and the team all-around gold. Then, for the floor exercises, Simone had a good routine, but she stepped out of bounds twice, so she lost the first place spot to the Brazilian, Rebeca Andrade. Simone got the silver medal, and her team member, Jordan Chiles, got the bronze. And when they received their medals, Simone and Jordan bowed down to Rebeca, acknowledging that she won the gold.  What a class act.

    It was so moving to watch Simone’s humbleness. At the end of the day, she came back to gymnastics because it was her joy. She wanted to live her purpose and do what she’s here to do. And she exuded that energy in every moment that she was there.

    So let’s all learn from Simone Biles.

    Give yourself permission to rest deeply, heal deeply, and do whatever you need to do to take care of your needs – even if it’s not what the world wants or expects of you.. And when you’re ready, and you feel your purpose calling to you, commit to it – not for anyone else except for yourself. Do it with joy and a humble heart, and your miracles will unfold.

    So I’ll leave you with this quote from Simone Biles! “At the end of the day, if I can say I had fun, it was a good day.” Share in the comments what inspiration you took away from witnessing Simone Biles’ Olympic journey! I send you my love! Have a beautiful week full of miracles.

    Please share with us below what inspires you most about Simone Biles’ journey.

  • How to Open to What You Resist

    How to Open to What You Resist

    Today’s Miracle Moment Is About How to Open to What You Resist…

    What is that difficult thing that you know you need to do, but you’ve been resisting it or putting it off? Maybe it’s a conversation you need to have or overdue paperwork you need to handle or any looming task on your to-do list that’s hovering over you. Whatever it is, it’s something that the thought of doing gives you a sunken feeling. 

    All of the big or small things that you’re putting off doing take up space in your life energetically. What you resist tends to persist.

    Your resistances can end up as a pile of incompletions that are actually weighing you down and taking up your energy. To create more space for miracles to flow, you need to handle incompletions and the things you’re resisting.

    So how can you get yourself to do that thing you’re resisting? Many productivity experts say that the best way to handle this is to start your day doing the most difficult task first. By doing that thing you’re avoiding, you can lift that feeling of overwhelm from your shoulders.

    Brian Tracy calls it “eating the frog.” This comes from a Mark Twain quote where he said, “If the first thing you do every morning is to eat a live frog, then you can go through the day with the satisfaction of knowing that that’s probably the worst thing that’s gonna happen to you during the day.” 

    I actually need to change that analogy since I’m a vegetarian! But the idea being is that you start with a difficult task first.

    And it’s not just beneficial for that one thing on your list. Research has shown that when you complete a difficult task, it triggers the release of endorphins in your brain and it gives you a natural high that’ll last for hours. And that energy can carry you through your day and you can put it towards the other important things in your life. 

    You can actually develop a positive addiction to these endorphins, and that’s going to make you want to go after the harder things first so that you get that endorphin high.

    So let’s take this a step further and bring some miracles energy in to help you to face what you’re resisting.

    Let’s do a short process together that will support some of those deeper fears or worries about whatever it is you’re avoiding to dissipate:

    • Start by getting in your body. Feel your feet on the ground and your body in the chair or wherever you’re watching or listening to this from. Imagine a chord going all the way down from your base chakra connecting you to the earth, and another chord going from your crown all the way to the heavens. Feel your physical body deeply rooted and supported by Mother Earth, and your spirit supported by your guides or your angel team and the celestial realms. And put your hand on your heart, and take a couple deep breaths in and out.
    • Next I invite you to explore your answers to the following questions.
      • What am I resisting?
      • What am I afraid will happen if I handle this?
      • What is a new, empowering Miracle Affirmation I could give myself about this situation? Maybe: I can do this. Or: I have the capacity to figure out how to handle this situation. Or: I trust that I’m supported by the Universe no matter what.
    • Now, imagine that you’ve faced what you’re resisting, and it goes very well. How do you feel after completing this? Maybe deep relief, ease, and gratitude. Now that you’ve moved the stagnant energy, there’s greater space for miracles to flow.
    • Finally, imagine going through your day with more energy to put towards everything that’s important to you. Feel the lightness you feel now that what you’ve been resisting is off of your shoulders.

    And now, from this energy, I invite you to go forward with your day. Start checking off those incompletions and make it a practice to do what you’re resisting. 

    And I’ll leave you with a quote from the past president of the American Institute of Psychoanalysis. His name was Theodore Isaac Rubin, and he says, “Happiness does not come from doing easy work, but from the afterglow of satisfaction that comes from the achievement of a difficult task that demanded our best.” 

    I’m wishing you a week where you courageously face those things you’ve been putting off and feel the weight lifted off your shoulders, and have more space for miracles! I send you love.

    Please share with us below what your experience is with trying today’s process to help you open to what you resist.

  • Shift Into Being a Miracle Thinker

    Shift Into Being a Miracle Thinker

    Today’s Miracle Moment Is About Shifting Into Being a Miracle Thinker…

    A Miracle Thinker sees life as being full of possibilities. They have the perspective that we live in a benevolent Universe, and that Life is for us, not against us. And this is so important to living in the Miracle Zone. 

    Now, most people are not Miracle Thinkers by default. In fact, 80% of the average person’s thoughts in a day are negative. This is because of the negativity bias that we inherited from our caveman ancestors. For them, it was more critical for survival to avoid a dangerous situation than it was for them to pursue a positive or helpful one. They had to constantly be on guard for danger, so our minds and nervous systems have been evolutionarily wired that way.

    In our current day and time, we don’t have the same extreme need for the negativity bias like our ancestors had. We don’t have to go out and hunt a dangerous animal in order to feed our family – we can have our favorite restaurant deliver food to our door. And we aren’t living out in the elements – we can take hot showers and baths and wrap ourselves up in cozy blankets. 

    But we’re still wired to seek out the negative, and this can show up in big and small ways.

    In our relationships, we can take things personally and assume the worst about someone who might just be having a bad day. In our career, we can hold back from going for our big dreams of writing a book or starting a business because our thoughts go to the worst-case scenario.

    All of this stops you from living the truly miraculous life that’s available to you. 

    The good news is that you can shift out of the default mode and create new neural pathways in your brain to become a Miracle Thinker! One way you can do that is through consciously looking out for the good. Another way to say this, is to look for the gift in every situation. 

    Here are just a few of the amazing benefits of being a Miracle Thinker:

    • When you have the perspective that you live in a benevolent Universe, then you can start to see how everything that happens in your life, even the challenges, is for your greatest good and greatest benefit.
    • You trust that there are always possibilities for miracles in each moment.
    • And because what you put your attention on grows stronger in your life, the more you focus on how Life is for you, the more that becomes the reality of your day-to-day experience.  

    Be sure to put yourself in a quiet place and watch the video above where I guide you through a short process and visualization that will help you to shift into being a Miracle Thinker.

    Afterwards, you may want to stay in this energy for a while of connecting with your Wiser Self. You may want to journal on what you received during this visualization.

    This week, I invite you to practice consciously redirecting yourself to be a Miracle Thinker. Take that empowered action that your Wiser self shared with you. Know that all of this is helping you to live more in the Miracle Zone. 

    Please share in the comments below about your experience becoming a Miracle Thinker. I love hearing from you!

    And I’ll leave you with this quote from Plato, “Reality is created by the mind. We can change our reality by changing our mind.” 

    May you have a beautiful week full of miracles. I send you love!

    Music Credit: Jim Oliver “Bloom Natural”

    Please share with us below what your experience is with being a Miracle Thinker.

  • Trusting In Divine Timing

    Trusting In Divine Timing

    Today’s Miracle Moment Is About Trusting In Divine Timing…

    Have you ever felt that you’re behind in life? Whether it’s in the area of career, relationships, family, or some other kind of personal achievement, do you have a nagging feeling that you’re not quite where you’re supposed to be? 

    Well, today, I want to share a profound and comforting concept with you, inspired by the teachings of the wonderful anthropologist and educator, Angeles Arrien, who was one of my biggest personal mentors and influences.

    It’s the idea that in life, “You’re right on time.” This simple yet powerful belief can help you to embrace where you are right now in your life’s journey, giving you greater peace of mind. And this also helps you get into greater energetic alignment with the miracles that you’re calling in. 

    I know personally, I had this nagging feeling of being behind in life throughout my twenties and thirties when it seemed that everyone I knew was finding their match and pairing up and starting families. While I knew I didn’t want to have children, I did want to find my soulmate and life partner. But in the process of calling that in, I went through one disappointing experience after another and had a lot of heartache and tears. I just couldn’t find my guy!

    I couldn’t figure out why this area of life was so stuck for me. In my early 40’s, I met my now husband, Sergio, and even then, I still had to go on a bigger journey. We got together, we went through challenges, and we broke up. It wasn’t until years later, when I gave him a call and said, “I think there’s something here and we should try this again.” We did, and we’ve now been together for 25 years.

    When I look back at my journey of romantic relationships, I can see that in all of those years, I was still growing into the woman I needed to be. Even though a part of me felt really ready for my soul mate, I didn’t realize that I needed the time it took to be ready to fully commit to a life partner. So now, when I look back, I’m so grateful for the lessons learned, not to mention that I’m grateful it didn’t work out with any of those other guys and that I ended up with Sergio.  

    Angeles Arrien taught that every experience, every moment, is divinely timed, and the most powerful thing we can do is to trust the timing of our lives and believe that we’re always right where we need to be. 

    In whatever area of life you feel behind in, what if everything is happening exactly according to schedule? What if you’re learning the lessons you need to, you’re becoming who you need to be, and life is directing your path to what’s truly right for you?

    When you take on this perspective, you can release the anxiousness and the habit of comparing yourself to others. And this also puts you in a better energy for manifesting. You’re able to take actions forward with greater ease and be a stronger energetic match for higher vibration miracles you’re calling in. 

    Angeles Arrien also said, “Be open to outcome, not attached to outcome.” When we understand that we’re right on time, we open ourselves to more joy, more acceptance, and an incredible sense of peace.

    Now, let’s take this idea of trusting your divine timing from the mental or emotional place to really feeling it in the body.

    In today’s video, I take you through a short process called the Inner Ease Technique, and this is adapted from Gregg Braden.

    So if there’s any remaining concern or worry about where you are with an area of life, this meditation is going to help you to come into greater coherence and harmony. From this place of coherence, it’s easier to trust in the universe and trust in your divine timing.

    I want to end this Miracle Moment with a wonderful quote from Lao Tzu who said “Nature does not hurry, yet everyting is accomplished.”

    Here’s to saying yes to life and yes to the miraculous gift of divine timing. I’d love to hear from you! What is your experience with recognizing the flow of divine timing in your life? I wish you great joy in knowing that you’re right on time and that the Universe is always working in your favor.

    Please share with us below what your experience is with trusting in divine timing.

  • The Miraculous Power of Receiving

    The Miraculous Power of Receiving

    Today’s Miracle Moment Is About The Miraculous Power of Receiving…

    It’s absolutely fabulous to receive: whether it’s love, financial prosperity, kindness, appreciation or gifts, each can be a wonderful blessing to our lives. Having the power to receive means we have the ability to fill up and enjoy greater love, connection and prosperity.

    However, many of us grew up hearing the message that it’s better to give than to receive. While it’s incredibly rewarding to give, it’s possible we’ve overlooked the hidden downsides of prioritizing giving over receiving. We may have unknowingly created blocks to our ability to receive based on a perception that it’s somehow selfish or wrong.

    Far too many people end up depleted, exhausted, and unfulfilled without realizing they haven’t learned how to fill themselves up. They haven’t learned to receive and this pushes away the abundant gifts that come flowing in from living in the Miracle Zone.

    If that feels familiar, you’re in the right place! In this Miracle Moment I’ll share a wonderful process you can try to practice joyful receiving.

    Now, it’s surprisingly common for folks to feel uncomfortable receiving. For instance, do you silently squirm inside when someone offers a kind word or a present—or do you allow yourself to deeply receive the gift of kindness, caring, and connection?

    Here are some reason you might feel uncomfortable receiving:

    • Distancing Intimacy: When we fear intimacy we may disallow ourselves from receiving a gift or compliment, thereby depriving ourselves of opening up to a deeper connection.
    • Fear of Vulnerability: Receiving invites us to welcome a vulnerable part of ourselves. Can we allow ourselves to surrender to the good feeling of receiving a gift?
    • Feeling Selfish: Through family, society, or religion you may have come to believe that it’s selfish to receive. We may have lost touch with our inherent worthiness and the right to relish in life’s pleasures. We might have forgotten that when we receive with gratitude and delight, we are gifting the giver; who’s true desire is to bring us joy.
    • A Feeling of Guilt or Pressure to Reciprocate: Some people have difficulty receiving because they believe they’ll then be indebted to the giver. We reject a gift to defend against a self-imposed obligation to reciprocate. If this is you, see if you can release yourself from your expectation to reciprocate and instead, simply receive. Rather than projecting into the future about what comes next, allow yourself to enjoy the present moment and greet the generosity with true appreciation.

    There are many ways we can block ourselves off from the pleasure of receiving. That’s why it’s important to bring awareness to these areas so we can begin to soften them and expand our hearts into joyful receptivity.

    So here’s an exercise that I invite you to try out to practice joyful receiving…

    1. Become Aware: The next time someone offers you a compliment, a present, or looks lovingly into your eyes, notice how you feel inside. What’s happening in your body? Is your breathing relaxed and your belly soft or are you tensing up? 
    2. Open Your Heart: Breathe into your heart and see if you can soften into a place of allowing. Can you simply be with any sense of caring and connection you feel in your heart?
    3. Remain Present: Bringing awareness to the pleasant and delightful experience of receiving might allow you to be more present in that moment. Allow yourself to stay in your heart instead of your head.
    4. Offer Gratitude: See if you can respond with genuine gratitude as you deeply receive the gift. Remember your appreciation is a gift you can share with the giver. 

    Learning to receive is a healthy step in experiencing a fullness and richness in life. It’s a confirmation of your own worthiness and a deepening of self-love that leads to a higher vibration in the Miracle Zone.

    I want to end this Miracle Moment with a wonderful quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson who said “Sometimes we receive the power to say yes to life. Then peace enters us and makes us whole.”

    Here’s to saying yes to life and yes to the miraculous power of receiving. I’d love to hear from you! What is your experience with receiving gifts? How might you shift yourself into receiving with more joy? I wish you many moments of relishing in the gifts of life and experiencing all of the abundance that the Miracle Zone has to offer.

    Please share with us below what your experience is with playing with joyful receiving.

  • Miracle Moment: The Power of the Beginner’s Mind

    Miracle Moment: The Power of the Beginner’s Mind

    Today’s Miracle Moment is About the Power of the Beginner’s Mind.

    There’s a story from Japanese Zen Master Shunryu Suzuki about a professor who went to a Zen Master. The professor asked the Master to explain the meaning of Zen. The Master quietly poured a cup of tea. The cup was full but he continued to pour. The professor couldn’t stand it any longer, so he questioned the Master impatiently, “Why do you keep pouring when the cup is full?” The Master said, “I want to point out to you that you are similarly attempting to understand Zen while your mind is full. So first, empty your mind of preconceptions before you try to understand Zen. If your mind is empty, it’s always ready for anything — it is open to everything.” The Master went on to say:

    “In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities; in the expert’s mind there are few.”

    Our culture often shies away from any notion of being a beginner. We feel embarrassed about not having the answer and think we should know everything. The power of the beginner’s mind lies in this paradox: the more you know about something, the less likely you are to keep your mind open to more learning

    Your next breakthrough isn’t in what you already know — it’s in something you don’t know. 

    If we were already completely enlightened and had all the answers, we wouldn’t need to learn. It takes the willingness to be vulnerable to have a beginner’s mind and to embrace the unknown. 

    Our friend and mentor Jack Canfield, creator of The Chicken Soup for the Soul series, is a great example of this. He’s taught seminars for 50 years, and at every workshop he attends, he still sits in the front row with a notebook taking notes. He always shows up with a beginner’s mind open to what he doesn’t know — and that’s one of his secrets to success.

    The beginner’s mind is about having a childlike mind that’s open, eager to learn, and sees new possibilities in the world.

    The toddler doesn’t beat himself up for not “toddling” the first time. He just gets up again and again and again. When we aren’t burdened with the responsibility of needing to know everything we think we’re supposed to know, there’s room for a youthful energy to rise up within us. We become more flexible, more adventurous, and more ingenious. From this place, we can see new solutions in any situation.

    This week, we invite you to embrace the unknown so that you can stay open to your next breakthrough, inspiration or creative solution.

    Let us know in the comments section what ways you’ll embrace the beginner’s mind this week.

     

     

     

  • Miracle Moment: What do you want to do before it’s too late?

    Miracle Moment: What do you want to do before it’s too late?

    Today’s Miracle Moment is about: What do you want to do before it’s too late?

    Recently I (Marci) attended a Paul McCartney concert! I’ve been a fan of the Beatles since I was little, and this year I celebrated my Beatles Birthday — “When I’m 64” — so that’s a long time!

    Getting to see Paul onstage was amazing. This concert was extra special because not just one Beatle was on stage… He was joined by John Lennon! They did a special tribute, where a video of John singing “I’ve Got a Feeling” was played on a giant screen on stage, and then Paul joined in to sing the song with him.

    After the song, Paul commented that he wished he let John know more about how he felt about him before it was too late.

    It got me thinking about how important it is to do those things we need to do before it’s late.

    You can be the greatest legend on earth, and still, at the end of the day, each of us has limited time on this planet. 

    So what is it for you? Is it telling someone in your life how much you love them? Or maybe it’s writing that book, or finally making those changes in your life for greater happiness?

    Bronnie Ware was a nurse caring for patients at the end of their lives. She got to hear their regrets firsthand and wrote a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying. 

    The top regret people shared was, “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

    So, this idea of doing what you need to do before it’s too late is really about being true to yourself.

    Somewhere along the way, many of us have suppressed our true selves in order to fit in or belong. As soon as we realize that we’re supposed to be doing what we want to be doing and it’s our birthright to express ourselves in our fullness, life begins to change.

    One way to tap into your deep truth is by breathing low in your belly and allowing this energy to rise up. When you do this, you’re tapping into your wisdom center, and when you practice this regularly, intuitions start to infiltrate into your actions and your words. 

    The Soul speaks in whispers and nuances. Listen closely, and those whispers will guide you to the soulful expression that you’re meant to be living.

    This week, we invite you to feel into what you want to do before it’s too late. And then… go do it!

    Let us know in the comments what you want to do before it’s too late.

     

  • The Miracle of Laughter

    The Miracle of Laughter

    Today’s Miracle Moment Is About the Miracle of Laughter…

    As we’ve been making these Miracle Moments for you, we’ve had so many laughs in the process. So, we decided to create a Miracle Moment especially for you on the miracle of laughter because we want you to join us in laughing!

    There’s a lot of research and evidence about the power of laughter to heal.

    Laughter creates endorphins, the feel-good chemicals that help us feel great after a good laugh.

    Laughter is a big pattern interrupter that takes you out of your old stories that clamp you down and keep you in a rut.

    Laughter absolutely confuses the mind as it’s hard to think when you’re laughing; this opens up your energy field for joy to come through. So, when you can, just laugh at yourself, laugh at your thoughts, laugh at how seriously you’re taking things.

    Why get caught up in the moment with such intensity when you can often laugh it off and recognize that most things work out in the end anyway?

    There’s a form of yoga called laughter yoga that originated in India. The last time I (Marci) travelled to India, we were riding in a boat along the sacred Ganges river at 6:30 a.m. All of a sudden, we heard roaring laughter from a big group of people bathing in this holy river. We boated over to them to see what they were doing and they invited us to join them in laughter yoga.

    We’ve since taken a few laughter yoga classes, and once the laughter gets started, you can’t help but join in.

    It’s great to talk about laughter, but it’s much better to do it! So please join us in about 20 seconds of laughter for no reason.

    If you feel silly doing it, even more reason to do it. Why pass up an opportunity for a good laugh? After laughing for about 20 seconds, notice how you feel in your body. That’s the endorphin high.

    We’ll close today with a Jewish proverb …
    “As soap is to the body, so laughter is to the soul.”

    So, let’s clean our souls. Let’s scrub them down with some good yummy laughter.

    We’d love to hear your thoughts, feelings, and experiences of practicing this. Please share with us in the comments section below.

  • How to Be Resilient in Uncertain Times

    How to Be Resilient in Uncertain Times

    Today’s Miracle Moment is about how to be resilient in uncertain times…

    We’re living in some of the most uncertain times in our lifetime. We can look around the world and see how people are experiencing extreme difficulties, traumatic events and adversities. This is a time where it’s incredibly important to find your inner resilience. 

    Nature is an incredible example to us of how to be resilient. Nature has the ability to bounce back constantly and to create new life. We can see this in all of the seasons, in weather patterns, and in the cycle of life. 

    One great example of resilience in nature is the emperor penguins. You might have seen the documentary about them years ago, March of the Penguins. 

    Year after year, adult emperor penguins walk over 60 miles in the icy, cold conditions of the arctic to breed. The female lays one egg and rolls it towards the male penguin, who then has the job of keeping the egg warm for the next four months until the egg hatches. The female penguins then leave the colony, and go out searching for food, and the males fast for four months as they keep the egg warm. By the time the female returns, the male has lost nearly half their body mass.

    Between the 60-mile trek in the drastic conditions of the Arctic and the four months of fasting, emperor penguins are facing extreme conditions, year after year, to keep their species going! 

    Even though it requires so much resilience for them to do so, the emperor penguins continue to make this trek. Why? Because their true nature calls them to do so. 

    Maybe we don’t have to lose half of our body weight or walk 60 miles in the Arctic to follow our true path, but we do have to face challenges and cultural pressures. We have to find a deeper reservoir of resilience within ourselves to keep moving toward our true path and our goals.

    If we can find a sense of passion and purpose underneath our goals, we can tap into reservoirs of resilience. 

    With the male penguin, breeding is so important to the perpetuation of the species. What if, like the male penguin, there was a feeling inside of you that was so important to nurture and cultivate in the same way?  

    This could be a feeling of an open heart, joy, adventure, or curiosity. As long as you keep that feeling alive and nurture it like the penguin nurtures the egg, then everything that comes your way will be worth it.

    Through connecting with the feeling state that’s most important to you to cultivate, you can find resilience and a strengthened ability to keep showing up to life. 

    You can also remember that there are infinite possibilities in each moment. If one door closes, there are an infinite number of options and possibilities available in this now. Continue to build your inner resilience that isn’t dependent on outside circumstances, and you will be able to create new possibilities and opportunities in your life.

    “Like tiny seeds with potent power to push through tough ground and become mighty trees, we hold innate reserves of unimaginable strength. We are resilient.” – Catherine DeVrye

    Please leave us a comment and let us know how you’re creating your inner resilience.

  • How to Escape the Approval Seeking Trap

    How to Escape the Approval Seeking Trap

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    Today’s Miracle Moment is about how to escape the approval-seeking trap…

    We’ve all experienced wanting to be accepted by other people and to get their approval. While this is a normal feeling, trying to get this kind of external validation can leave us feeling disempowered–that’s the price of being caught in the approval-seeking trap!

    To free yourself from the approval-seeking trap, start by becoming aware of any of your approval-seeking patterns. Ask yourself the following questions: 

    • Do you follow your heart, or do you follow the voices of others instead?
    • Are you able to say no and set healthy boundaries in your relationships? Or do you overstep your preferences to please others?
    • Do you view rejection as “God’s protection” (i.e., the universe guiding you to something better suited for you)? Or do you take rejection personally? 

    To escape the approval-seeking trap, we need to build new patterns of self-love and self-celebration. 

    Maintaining healthy self-esteem requires learning to fill ourselves up from the inside out. We can do this through validating, acknowledging, and loving ourselves completely and unconditionally. Most people don’t do this, and it just needs a little practice.

    Here’s an exercise you can do to start building the circuitry of self-validation and celebration: 

    1. When you act or speak in a way that makes you feel good about yourself, stop and acknowledge it.
    2. Reward yourself with praise and joy.
    3. You can tap your heart or do a little internal victory dance. The important thing is that you acknowledge yourself. 

    You can also do this any time you experience a “win” in your life. For example: getting a new job, doing an act of self-care, or working towards a creative goal. Take a moment to celebrate your win!

    Self-acknowledgement helps us to shift from looking outside of ourselves for approval to validating ourselves instead. 

    When we’re celebrating ourselves, we’re supporting our brain chemistry to experience happiness, joy, and fulfillment in life. The more that we build these circuits, the more that we can stay in an ongoing state of self-love. You can start simply by celebrating yourself in small baby steps each day.

    “Stop looking outside for scraps of pleasure or fulfillment for validation or security or love. You have a treasure within that is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer.” – Eckhart Tolle

    Please leave us a comment below and share the ways you can celebrate yourself.

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