Why is adult friendship so hard—and what can we do about it?
If you’ve ever felt like making friends as an adult is way harder than it should be, you’re not alone. In this episode of Living in the Miracle Zone, Marci Shimoff sits down with filmmaker and author Barnet Bain to unpack the real reason we struggle with friendship today—and what it actually takes to build meaningful, lasting relationships in a divided world.
We talk about the hidden pain of adult loneliness, how our culture trains us to wear masks, and why so many people feel emotionally disconnected—despite being more “connected” than ever. This isn’t just theory. It’s practical. It’s raw. It’s real talk about real friendship.
You’ll learn:
– Why most friendships stay surface-level
– How to build deep, emotionally safe connections
– The difference between being present and trying to “fix”
– Why self-friending is the key to all your relationships
– And how to show up with intention and heart—no matter what the world throws at you
If this hits home, share it with someone who needs it. Because real friendship still matters.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro: Living in the Miracle Zone
00:55 – Barnet Bain’s creative journey
03:30 – How personal pain shaped Barnet’s friendships
06:00 – From judgment to love: lessons from his daughter
09:00 – What makes friendship sacred?
12:45 – Why most people live in “bubbles” of belief
16:00 – Understanding your own internal programming
20:00 – The art of “self-friending”
23:30 – How to show up as a true friend
27:15 – When NOT to fix your friends
30:00 – Practical tips to deepen any friendship
34:00 – Marci’s reunion story: the power of being seen
36:00 – Final thoughts and powerful quote from Barnet
38:00 – Get the Friendship Field Guide & Marci’s gift
Resources & Links:
Download Manifest a Life of Miracles: 4 Steps to Living in the Miracle Zone 👉 www.themiraclezonebook.com
💫 Get Barnet’s Friendship Book: https://BarnetBain.com
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Connect with Marci Shimoff:
- Download Marci’s free workbook: 21 Ways to Raise Your Happiness Set Point
- YouTube
- Visit Marci’s Website
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